Intimacy series

The Intimacy series is a collection of short films created by Nicola Jane Francis and Sarah Kelly, exploring our relationship with intimacy on many levels and contexts.

Written and voiced by Sarah Kelly @cometobedbysarah 

Directed, designed, and animated by Nicola Jane Francis @nickycity

Resources

Nothing stifles pleasure like the pressure to achieve it. Those with this performance anxiety often become frustrated during sex and worry that they're taking too long to "get there". However, there is not one singular path to pleasure, and finding our own is a process of exploration—solo and partnered. 

Through managing lifestyle factors that impact intimacy, adjusting positions, or incorporating tools like lube, mindset work, toys, and more, we build a foundation from which pleasure can flow more freely. With this, we are able to trade the energy of "achieving" for "allowing". This shifts our habit of spectatoring during sex, to simply being present with pleasure!

We cannot read each others minds and yet…

We are conditioned to believe our partners should just “know” what to do in bed. 

That if we communicate about it instead, someone has failed. 

However, s3gs should be a mutually pleasurable experience that all partners work towards as a team. 

Together, you explore and gather little clues along the way about what works for you as individuals and as a unit. 

The metaphorical (or literal) map you build with these clues can become a source of great fulfillment, growing and evolving over time. 

It may feel vulnerable at first, but remember…great pleasure is unearthed on the other side of vulnerability. 

Music: Miss U by Everet Almond